
Grieve
Grief is holy
It moves and pools. It flows, stays, aches and yet over time, it mysteriously makes it’s uninvited peace. Grief isn’t linear or logical and will be with us for as long as we love. We have so much to learn while in the arms of it’s unworldly and erratic hold.
Early grief
The earliest days and months of grief felt like a distinctly different beast to me. Completely physical. A cellular rearrangement and a messy mash up of what was and what is.
Relearning how to breathe with potatoes for lungs and blood pudding where the heart used to be.
Caretakers, it’s all about you.
Recommended Resources
Grief is as individual as we are.
The resources featured below found their way to my heart at times of graceful impact. They acted as a beacon and a soft launching pad for discovering an intertwined community of like-minded support.
Without a “one size fits all” for accessing the help we need, continued exploration is highly recommended.
Hold on to what resonates with you, let go of what doesn’t and file the rest for another day.
Most importantly remember that we are never alone in our grief.
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Be Here Now
Ram Dass
The first spiritual lifeline in our earliest days. With the book as a launching pad, the exploration is endless, wise and discoverable.
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All There Is
Anderson Cooper
What started as a podcast about his personal re-exploration of grief, has set in motion a community of valuable, relatable and crucial support. The Steve Colbert episode hooked my broken heart.
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Helping Parents Heal
This non-profit, volunteer run, national organization is non-dogmatic yet invitingly spiritual. Founded by bereaved parents, this was my first stop in realising that I am not alone and my first step in interacting with like minded grievers. With abounding love, they offer various easily accessible resources.
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The Grieving Brain
Mary Frances O'Connor
Thank god I found her books! Grief is physical! I was feeling a little crazy with how my body was dramatically reacting to grief, until I stumbled upon her brilliant science based work.
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Journey Of Souls
Micheal Newton
I found this book fascinating, surprisingly healing and it cracked open my mind to possibilities I hadn’t previously considered. Grief has a way of fueling exploration and expanding the way we make sense of this world.
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The Year of Magical Thinking
Joan Didion
This memoir of mourning and the complexities of loss is as brilliantly written as it is heartbreakingly powerful.
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Take Back The Magic
Perdita Finn
Weaving her stories of personal grief while making intuitive connections with the invisible world, held me captive with parallel personal experiences. Somehow while reading, a glimmer of magic was fighting its way to appear amidst my profound pain.
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briefly perfectly human
Alua Arthur
Alua’s stunning memoir floored me. Her authenticity and courage unavoidably inspiring. Her writing honest and raw, she makes a sharp pivot in her life to work amongst the dying and usher a whole new community of passionate death doulas with her.
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Conscious Grieving
Claire Bidwell Smith
Gentle, intuitive, thorough and careful with her expertise. Her lifeline of varied resources and wisdom are to be cherished, trusted and savored.
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Finding Meaning
David Kessler
Through lived experiences and studies with the masters, David has been a leading voice in grief support for decades. I found his resources varied, thorough, trustworthy and wise enough to become a student of myself.
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Find Your Safe Harbor
I wish I had found this website in my early days of grief. It is indeed a safe harbor for exploring multiple resources for many types of loss and needs. Wrap yourself in a blanket and plan to stay a while and savor your findings.
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Gretchen Evans
Sibling Loss Grief Coach
Gretchen is a shining light of hope in the desperately underserved community of sibling grievers. Follow her Instagram, join her group, share her far and wide. We need more expert acknowledgement and support for siblings facing the complex unimaginable.
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Bearing the Unbearable
Dr. Joanne Cacciatore
“An approach to grief that moves beyond platitudes and cliche. It offers a way to truly grow through grief that is not a moving beyond but is more of an organic composting and recycling of the soul”
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A Love That Never Dies
Film by grieving parents Jane Harris and Jimmy Edmonds
This documentary spoke honestly to my broken mother heart in my early days of grief. Their inspiring story of of hope that with ritual and honor we could somehow make meaning in our lives after such loss as well.
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Ram Dass, Going Home
Documentary film
Ram Dass reflects on love, life and death as his own days draw to a close
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Forever Family Foundation
This foundation is a volunteer run, science backed, global movement that helps to change worldview about death, grief, and life after physical death. The shared information from scientists, researchers and academics is abundant, powerful and I found it all to be validating and powerfully healing.
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A Little Book of Self-Care for Those Who Grieve
Paula Becker
A beautiful, gentle and easy to absorb book for the earliest days of grief. Meant for shaky hands and open hearts.